When a Man Says “I Don’t Want to Hurt You”
As a woman, I have heard these words from men on more than one occasion. The first time it happened was when I was in college. I had been dating a guy for a few months and had started to feel like things were getting serious. One night, after we had sex, he looked at me and said, “I don’t want to hurt you.”
I was taken aback. I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t want to hurt him either, but I also didn’t know if I was ready for a serious relationship. We talked for a while, and I eventually agreed to keep dating him.
But the Damage Was Already Done
Those words had planted a seed of doubt in my mind. I started to wonder if he was really in it for the long haul. I started to look for signs that he was going to hurt me. And eventually, he did.
He cheated on me. He lied to me. He broke my heart.
I know that not all men who say “I don’t want to hurt you” are going to end up hurting you. But I also know that it’s a red flag. It’s a sign that he’s not sure about what he wants. It’s a sign that he’s not ready for a serious relationship.
If you’re hearing these words from a man, please take them seriously. Don’t ignore them. Don’t make excuses for him. Don’t try to convince yourself that he’s just being honest. He’s telling you how he feels. And you need to listen.
Why Do Men Say “I Don’t Want to Hurt You”?
There are many reasons why a man might say “I don’t want to hurt you.” Here are a few of the most common:
- He’s not sure about what he wants. He’s not ready for a serious relationship.
- He’s afraid of getting hurt himself. He’s been hurt in the past and he doesn’t want to go through that again.
- He’s not over his ex. He’s still in love with his ex and he doesn’t want to hurt her by dating you.
- He’s just not that into you. He doesn’t feel a strong connection with you and he doesn’t want to lead you on.
What Should You Do If a Man Says “I Don’t Want to Hurt You”?
If a man says “I don’t want to hurt you,” the best thing to do is to believe him. Don’t try to talk him out of it. Don’t try to convince him that he’s wrong. Just accept it and move on.
I know it’s hard to hear these words from someone you care about. But it’s better to hear them now than to wait until he’s actually hurt you.
What If You’re Still Not Sure?
If you’re still not sure what to do, here are a few tips:
- Talk to your friends and family. They can give you their opinion and help you make a decision.
- Trust your gut. If you have a bad feeling about a guy, don’t ignore it.
- Don’t be afraid to walk away. If a guy isn’t right for you, don’t waste your time on him.
Conclusion
If you’re hearing the words “I don’t want to hurt you” from a man, it’s important to take them seriously. It’s a sign that he’s not sure about what he wants. It’s a sign that he’s not ready for a serious relationship.
Don’t ignore these words. Don’t make excuses for him. Don’t try to convince yourself that he’s just being honest. He’s telling you how he feels. And you need to listen.
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